啊呀发首情歌+_+

发现Plum & Ashby 的小狗很可爱,25胖子一个,买不起

听着这歌觉得自己一辈子的表白对象都是钱呢!真爱感天动地!一毛钱也要捡起来,残币也会暗搓搓的粘好……Love your curves and all your edges,  all your perfect imperfections

穷字不仅写在脑门上,简直刻在灵魂里了。oh~我那贫瘠的灵魂

本来完全不想开脑洞可是听着情歌就忍不住的想吐槽……歌词好感人哦可是完全不明白啊

先引用一下小李子目前我最喜欢的台词,来自Total Eclipse,背景是魏尔伦和兰波在讨论魏尔伦卢平写的情诗。

Love, no such thing

Whatever it is to binds families and married couples together, that's not love.That's stupidity, selfishness or fear, love doesn't exist.

Self-interest exists, a catch which based on personal gain exists, complacency exists,but not love, love has to be reinvented.

爱大多数时候都以私心,私利,自我满足为出发点,所以所谓的输,判断的标准大概也是自我定义中的,有付出,但是目的并没有达到或实现。

如果一个人的付出感情得不到对方回应,或是该回应不是自己想要的,付出的一方就会产生自我怀疑等一系列的负面情绪。把感情比作是战场的话,到这个阶段似乎已经开始丢盔弃甲了……但我觉得,这个战场上,你爱的人也好,爱你的人也好,不管你如何假设他们是你必须攻克的敌军,或是会给你补给的友军,这些人都从来没有和你在一个战场上。每个人的战地、场景都是一个自我中心的宇宙,那些假想敌,目标或者任务,都只是人个体的自我投射而已。

所谓的“先爱上的人就输了”或者“爱的深的人就输了”,这种认输,就像是敌军伤几个人而我军已经战损过半一样,输代表的大概是现在的自己对曾经付出的自己的不满与追悔?归根结底,还是因为私心,私利,自我满足没有实现却又无可奈何的情绪。

托妮·莫里森(Toni Morrison)说的“你不会失去从来就没占有过的东西。"所以嘛,一个人能失去的丢失的,就只是自己嘛!

人到底是为什么要置身于一个自己设置的战场,且计较输赢得失嘛……

真是不明白……一辈子都在跟自己打,相比之下搞出老贾跟自己玩的妮妮简直正能量爆棚!

莫里森的原话太长……下面引用

“You think because he doesn't love you that you are worthless. You think that because he doesn't want you anymore that he is right -- that his judgement and opinion of you are correct. If he throws you out, then you are garbage. You think he belongs to you because you want to belong to him. Don't. It's a bad word, 'belong.' Especially when you put it with somebody you love. Love shouldn't be like that. Did you ever see the way the clouds love a mountain? They circle all around it; sometimes you can't even see the mountain for the clouds. But you know what? You go up top and what do you see? His head. The clouds never cover the head. His head pokes through, beacuse the clouds let him; they don't wrap him up. They let him keep his head up high, free, with nothing to hide him or bind him. You can't own a human being. You can't lose what you don't own. Suppose you did own him. Could you really love somebody who was absolutely nobody without you? You really want somebody like that? Somebody who falls apart when you walk out the door? You don't, do you? And neither does he. You're turning over your whole life to him. Your whole life, girl. And if it means so little to you that you can just give it away, hand it to him, then why should it mean any more to him? He can't value you more than you value yourself.” 

19 Jul 2014
 
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